Well, yesterday afternoon probably wasn't the best time to sit in on two therapy sessions with my supervisor - but I didn't know it was going to take me FOREVER to get home. That's another story - at least I made it. A. made it home as well - after he called for a rescue after almost getting his silly little car home. Miata's don't really do well in the snow.
Key Learnings:
- Actions speak louder than words. Behavior tells the story. What people say they want is supported or not supported by what is actually happening.
- Always expect to be told a version of the truth, not the whole truth and sometimes pure bullshit. Look at what you do know versus the reality that someone tries to explain. That reality is still critical - but again, behavior tells the story.
- Think clinically. What service am I providing, what is my role and how do I stay the observer while joining in relationship with people.
- What is the framework in my head that guides me to assess the person in front of me?
- Joining is a slow process - not only for the client but for the therapist as well. I get to honor my process of opening and comfort with someone. With teens, I suspect, this would be more respected anyway.
It was hard (when A. and I were both finally home and decompressing) not to disclose information that falls under that label of confidentiality. I wanted to tell him all about the two cases - and didn't out of respect for these new ethics that I'm suppose to subscribe to. We both feel the gap and decided that it would take time to see how it settled out. For now, I can just try to do what feels right even if this is a different way of being in relationship with my partner.
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